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Ubomi Ndiye ndaqonda ukuba ndingenza imali eninzi ngomsebenzi wesondo kunalo naliphi na idigri. Kodwa yonke imali endiyibeke epokothweni yeza ngexabiso: indibeka engxakini. '
  • U-Elise, 23, uhlala kwiprojekthi yezindlu eLondon yabasetyhini abancinci abachacha kwikhoboka leziyobisi. Wakhulela eWatford ngumama ongatshatanga ngezibonelelo ezazikhubazekile. Njengendlela yokuphuma kwintlupheko, xa wayeneminyaka eli-17 ubudala, uElise waqala ukusebenza njengomkhaphi. Ukujongana nokukhathazeka okwandayo emsebenzini wakhe, wagqiba ekubeni azilinganise ngesixa esikhulu se-ketamine kunye notywala.

    Uyeke ukusebenza njengogada kunyaka ophelileyo. Xa ndadliwanondlebe naye wayethetha ngokuqhwanyaza kwezandla kunye nokuphosa iinwele, ubuqaqawuli bakhe bokubengezela okumangalisayo.

    Ndineminyaka engama-23, kodwa ndiziva ngathi ndiye ndaphila isigidi sobomi.



    Ukukhula kokungazithembi ngokwezezimali kwaba nefuthe elikhulu kum lokufuna ukuzabalazela imali njengomntu omdala. Bendisazi ukuba ukusebenza ngomgqibelo umsebenzi ngekhe kuwunciphise. Xa ndandineminyaka eli-13 ubudala, ndathenga i-de-tagger, umazibuthe wokweba ezivenkileni. Bendiba iibhegi zikaTed Baker ndizithengisa nge-eBay. Ndingonga iipesenti ezingama-80 zemali endiyenzileyo. Xa ndandineminyaka eyi-16, oku kwaqhubela phambili ekuthengiseni i-MDMA kwii-squat raves.

    Kwenye yezi rave ndadibana nentombazana ebandakanyeka kubunongogo kwaye wandixelela ngewebhusayithi awayebhengeze kuyo. Uye wathi bekusemthethweni, ke ngoko bekukho umngcipheko omncinci- kwaye kunenzuzo ethe kratya xa kuthelekiswa nokuthengisa iziyobisi. Watyala imbewu.

    Ndandimane ndibukela Idayari eyimfihlo yeNtombazana yokuFownela , esekwe kwincwadi ebhalwe ngu-Belle de Jour. Kwakukhazimla abakumgangatho ophezulu bekhapha, kodwa yayingengobomi bokwenyani. Kuyavela ukuba uBelle de Jour wayenemfundo yobuntatheli, wenza umsebenzi wesondo okwexeshana kangangeenyanga ezintandathu kwaye wabhala incwadi kuwo. Akameleli kubemi abenza lo msebenzi, kwaye akanamava okwenyani. Uninzi lwamantombazana abandakanyeka kolu shishino luhlwempuzekile, kwaye abafuni kuyenza. Ndabona ukuba ndingenza imali eninzi ngokwenza umsebenzi wesondo kunalo naliphi na idigri. Nangona kunjalo, yonke imali endiyibeke epokothweni yeza ngexabiso: indibeka engxakini.

    umsebenzi wesondo

    Kunjani ukuba nguMphelelisi eSingapore

    UAJ McDougall 01.04.21

    Kwakungenangqondo - ndandichitha imali endiyifumeneyo kunyango ukuze ndibuyise. Ukubhukisha iinqwelomoya ukuya e-Asiya ukuyokwenza i-yoga, ukuzama nje ukuphilisa, kuba bendikhathazwe kakhulu kukuphela kwayo, kwaye ndidandathekile kwaye ndinengxaki yoxinzelelo lwasemva koxinzelelo. Ekupheleni kweyoga, ndingafumana i-psyche yam yangaphakathi yokugungqa kum ukuba ndingenzi umsebenzi wesondo. Yonke indawo yam yayikhala kum ukuba ndingaphindi ndiyenze. Nangona kunjalo, ndenze isigqibo endisaziyo, ngokusekelwe kuloyiko: ukuqokelela ubutyebi kwezoqoqosho endaweni yokuthatha indlela esempilweni.

    Ndandihlala ndixoka ebantwini-igama lam, into endiyenzayo ukuze ndiziphilise-ke bendihlala ndizama ukukhumbula into endixelela abantu ngayo. Ngaba ndinguAmelia okanye uAlice okanye uElise? Ndiphantse ndaqala ukulibala igama lam lokwenyani.

    Ndikhumbula ukuntywilisela lo mfo owayekade eneqela lebhola ekhatywayo-ndandifumana amanani amane kubhukisho- kwaye ndiyakhumbula ndibuyele nje ekuphathweni kwakhe. Ukuva i-monologue yam yangaphakathi kwintlungu engathethekiyo, kwaye nam ndinje, Ithini le nto? Ndingakunceda njani? Ndivele ndahlukana nesiqu sam, ndazahlula. Inxalenye yam kuye kwafuneka yohlule ukuze ndizikhusele, ukuze ndiphile.

    Ndiyakhumbula ndikhona kunyango kwaye ndingavumi ukuthetha ngomsebenzi wesondo, kwaye eso yayisisizathu sokuba ndibekhona, kuba ndandifumana amaphupha amabi, ndihlaselwa ziidemon, uninzi lobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo. Ndandinombono owoyikisayo wamadoda awachaphazela amandla am okukholelwa ekubeni ndikwazi ukuthandana nabantu besini esahlukileyo.

    Uninzi lwabantu aluwenzi umsebenzi wesondo ngokuchanekileyo. Njengakwi, baphela beneminyaka engama-40 ubudala, benemithwalo yeebhegi ezininzi kunye nezihlangu ezisetyenzisiweyo zezihlangu zikaPrada, hayi enye into eninzi, eseflethini yebhunga. Ufumana isixa esincinci sabantu abalima imali yabo- batyala imali kwizitokhwe nakwizabelo- kodwa abanabudlelwane, abanalo usapho, kwaye abatshatanga. Banobutyebi obuninzi, kodwa ngaba banazo izinto zexabiso lokwenyani?

    Omnye wamadam endandisebenza kuye wayengumnikazi wale ndlu eSouth Kensington kunye nendlu eMarbella, kwaye wayevumela amantombazana ukuba aye kubo bobabini. Wayenemali eninzi. Kuya kufuneka sidibane naye ePret a Manger eKensington inyanga nenyanga nemali yethu kwaye simnike ukusikwa kwethu, ezazifana neepesenti ezingama-30 zokubhukisha ngakunye- ezazingama- £ 700 ngeyure. Ungabona amantombazana eshiya iingxowa zawo zemali kwaye emnika nezipho- iGodiva iitshokholethi, ubucwebe, iiwotshi- ke uya kubanika nokubhukisha ngakumbi. Wayemhle ngokwenene, emhle ngokwenene, mhlawumbi emalunga neminyaka engama-60 ubudala, kodwa wajonga malunga nama-40. Wayengenabo abantwana, ngoko ke wayephatha amantombazana njengabantwana bakhe. Intombazana eyandazisa kuye yathi iyakuthanda ukufumana amakhadi oSuku loMama, kwaye oko kukungenisa kuye. Kwakukho konke malunga nokukhohlisa, ngokusisiseko. Uya kuyifumana loo nto kwiinkalo ezininzi zeshishini.

    Sonke safumana umfoti oqeqeshiweyo ukuba asifote ngezambatho zangaphantsi ezithandekayo. Sineefowuni zomsebenzi, kwaye wakube ubeke inombolo yakho kwisiza ifowuni yakho ayizange iyeke ukukhala. Ndineepotifoliyo ezahlukileyo ezinamaxabiso awahlukeneyo kwiiwebhusayithi ezahlukeneyo. Kwafuneka usebenze kwiimarike ezininzi kangangoko kunokwenzeka.

    Kwakungeyiyo yonke intshabalalo kunye nobumnyama - ngamanye amaxesha kwakumnandi, kufana nevidiyo yomculo. Isibini sethu esingamantombazana singafumana i-Airbnb okanye ihotele entle eneenkwenkwezi ezintlanu, enemithwalo yecocaine, imithwalo ye-champagne, edlala umculo we-rap ukusigcina sikhuthazekile, sixinene ngokungathi siyangxama. Ungaphuma uyokubhukisha, ubuye nemali, kuya kubakho amawaka eepawundi kuyo yonke indawo: i- $ 100 yaba ngathi yi- $ 5 kum. Wenza imali eninzi nje ngexesha elincinci ukuba ulahlekelwe lixabiso layo.

    Ndenze semthethweni umvuzo wam. Ndandihlawula irhafu kwaye ndibhalisiwe njenge-Therapist yezobuhle, konke ngethemba lokuthenga ipropathi, mhlawumbi ukuba ngumnini-mhlaba kwaye ndithathe umhlala-phantsi kwangethuba. Nangona kunjalo, andikwazi nje ukufumana unyaka ongezelelweyo wokubuyiselwa kwerhafu endikudingayo. Khange ndiphinde ndiwenze lo msebenzi - ibindibulala.

    Xa ndangena kwi-rehab ndafunda ukuba bendihlala ndizifihla ukungonwabi. Phezulu ndandonwabile, ndonwabile, amabele kunye namazinyo, izandla zejazz zintombazana. Nokuba ndiziva ngathi ndingcungcutheka kwindawo yam yesine yokubhukisha okanye nantoni na, ndingazenza ngathi yile ndonwabileyo-ithamsanqa. Xa kubhukishelwa emnyango ukubhukisha, bendimane ndiphefumlela phezulu kwaye ndiye, Hee, uqhuba njani! Ngena! Uncumo olukhulu ebusweni bam.

    Ndifuna ukusebenza ngendlela eyenza ukuba abathengi bam - ababengoosomashishini abakumgangatho ophakathi abazizityebi, ikakhulu - bekhululekile. Babeziziqwenga eziphezulu, abantu ababesenza imali eninzi, ngoko ke kwakufuneka ndibengumfazi owayengenguye umthengisi weevenkile oqeqeshiweyo eneminyaka eli-13, ochitha ixesha labo ejinga emangcwabeni ephefumla irhasi yeerosol. Kufana namantombazana amaninzi kolu shishino - bazenza nje into abayifunayo abathengi babo.

    Ibali lam yayikukuba utata wayeneshishini lakhe kwaye umama wayengumongikazi. Ndenza ngathi ndifunda i-BA yam kwi-Psychology e-UCL. Ndifunde kufutshane nomxholo ukuze ndikwazi ukuthetha ngokwenyani kwaye ndonelise nakuphi na ukukrokra okukrokrisayo. Ndathi ndisebenza njengomphelekezi okwethutyana kuba, ndiyayithanda isondo, kwaye imali yibhonasi elungileyo!

    Inyani yile yokuba andizange ndiwenze lo msebenzi kuba ndandithanda isondo, ndenza lo msebenzi kuba ndandithanda imali. Ndisebenza ngokusisigxina, elona nqanaba liphezulu lamabanga emfundo ngokusesikweni yayiyi-GCSE, ndandibona abathengi abaninzi ngosuku kwaye ndingenabo ubudlelwane nabazali bam. Andizange ndimbone utata wam iminyaka-wayemhlukumeza ngokwenene umama.

    Kodwa umntu osebenza ngesondo olungileyo ungumthengisi olungileyo, kwaye baxelela abathengi babo ngento abafuna ukuyiva. Ngokubanzi, ababaninzi abafuna ukuntywila intombazana ehlwempuzekileyo ekhayeni eliqhekekileyo izama ukuphuma kwintlupheko. Bafuna ukuntywila kwintombazana evuselelekileyo kwaye evuthayo, ezinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo ukusuka kwindawo ekhuselekileyo, enekamva eliqaqambileyo kunye nencasa engonelisiyo ka-dick. Inomdla ngakumbi!

    Ubomi

    Abasebenzi bezesondo kwiindidi ezintathu zabaxumi boSuku lweKrisimesi

    UNick Chester 12.22.20

    Kwakungekho lula njengaleyo. Xa umntu ehamba egumbini, kuye kwafuneka ndisebenze ukuba ingaba ufuna ukuba yile ntombazana emsulwa engayenzi ncam le naleya, okanye i-cum-slut fuck-doll. Ke bekufuneka ukhawuleze ngenene ukuzilolonga: 'Ufuna ukuba ndibe ngubani?'

    Ukukhuthuzwa kunye nokugxothwa yayiyimicimbi yokwenyani. Bendihlala ndinesothuso kwiiflethi zam, kumakhonkco am esitshixo, ecaleni kwebhedi yam, ecaleni komnyango wam. Amaqhosha e-SOS abiza i-999, kunye ne-CCTV kwindledlana yeflethi yam nakwigumbi lokuhlala. Kwafuneka ndilungile ekusombululeni ungquzulwano kwaye ndikhwaze umntu-ngathi, unayo amandla okundibetha kwaye undenzakalise?

    Ndandinomsindo omkhulu wangaphakathi kwaye ndayithiya ngokungazi ngokwenza lo msebenzi.

    Ndinomgaqo-nkqubo wokungahloniphi kwaphela. Nawuphi na umbono wokungahloniphi, ngekhe ndiyinyamezele kwaye ndiza kubaphosa ngaphandle. Ngequbuliso, yonke le nto intombazana intle yayihambile, kwaye yayingumntu ovela kuyo Iimpuma ukuza. Ekupheleni kosuku uyintombazana encinci eflethini wedwa, kwaye ubona la madoda amadala amadala, kwaye uninzi lwala madoda luphuma ekuxhaphazeni abantu ababhinqileyo abasengozini. Kwafuneka ndifunde indlela yokuziqinisekisa kwaye ndibeke abantu endaweni yabo.

    Ekugqibeleni, kwafikelela kwinqanaba lokuba ndingasafuni ukuphila kwakhona. Ndandisebenzisa iziyobisi ezininzi. Kwakukho ubomi obunye kwimidiya yoluntu kwaye enye inyani. Kumajelo onxibelelwano, bendisitya kwezona ndawo zokutyela bendiziva kuphela ngabarepiki bethetha, kodwa enyanisweni bendiphuma kwangoko ndiyokuzitofa ngeketamine. Nge-20, ndinomyolelo wam obhaliweyo.

    Indlela endibona ngayo ngomsebenzi wokuthengisa ngesondo, ukuba awunabutywala okanye umba wezinto ngaphambi kokuba uqale, uya kuba nawo ngexesha lokuphela kwakho. Ndaya kwisiqhelo kathathu. Ukuba ndithathe iiXannies ezimbalwa, bendiphelelwe yiyo ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndenze lo msebenzi, kodwa ndisakwazi ukubamba incoko ekrelekrele. Ke leyo yayiyindlela yam yethamsanqa. Le ntsalela ithathe iminyaka embalwa ukuyifezekisa. Ndisebenzisa iigrama ezimbalwa zeketamine uninzi lweentsuku. Bendiyifaka inaliti kuba ikubetha kwangoko kwaye inefuthe elingcono. Bendihlala ndisebenzisa i-coke kunye neXanax phantse yonke imihla, ukundinyusa kwaye undithobe. Ngenxa yemali endandiyifumana, zazikho iziyobisi ezingapheliyo. Kodwa i-ketamine yayiyeyona nto iphambili, kunye notywala.

    Ngoku, ndihlala kwizindlu ezixhaswayo zabasetyhini abasesichengeni. Bendihlala ndifumana amanani amane ngosuku, kwaye ngoku ndifumana i- $ 10 ngemini kwikhredithi yendalo yonke. Kwaye ndiziva ngathi ndiqala ubomi bam ngokutsha, ndizama ukuthatha isigqibo sokuba ndifuna ukuba ngubani. Andinamabhongo kwaye ndikhuthazekile njengoko bendikade ndinjalo- loo msebenzi uvele wandihlafuna wandiphalaza.

    Okonwabisayo ngokwaneleyo, elona xesha lonwaba njengomntu omdala kuxa ndandikwisihlaziyo kunyaka ophelileyo. Ndandihlala nabanye abantu abathandathu ababethandeka ngokwenene - sonke sasikunye kunyango lweqela kunye, sonke sasixhasana, sonke sasinyamekelana ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye sasifuna ezona zilungileyo omnye komnye, kwaye ndenza ubuhlobo obumangalisayo.

    Ndifuna ukusebenzisa amava am ukunceda abanye abantu abancinci, abasetyhini abahlelelekileyo. Ndinomdla wokunceda abantu abatsha abasesichengeni. Ndiva ngathi iintlungu zinokukwenza ube novelwano ngakumbi njengomntu.

    Kukho umahluko phakathi kwemali ekhawulezayo kunye nemali elula, kwaye abantu bayadideka xa bethetha ngomsebenzi wokuthengisa ngomzimba. Kuyakhawuleza, kodwa akukho lula. Kwaye kuza ngexabiso. Ngalo lonke ixesha ndilele nendoda eyahlukileyo kwaye ndisenza imali, bendincama isiqwenga sentlalo-ntle yam, ubomi bam bangaphakathi, impilo nolonwabo- kwaye, hayi ukuba ndivakale melodramatic, kodwa isiqwenga somphefumlo wam. Ndizithengisile.

    Ukwabelana ngesondo

    Abasebenzi bezesondo basixelela ngabona bathengi babo batyebileyo

    URose Stokes 11.18.20

    Ndinalo mthengi ogqiba ukundilandela. Wayenamagumbi okulala ali-11 kunye nesi sixa sokuhlambela. Wayesisityebi kakhulu-wayesebenzela ibhanki-kwaye wayengumntu ongenanto kwaphela ekuhlaleni. Wayenayo yonke le mali, kodwa ngaba wayenaye umntu onokwabelana naye ngale ndlu? Hayi, yiyo loo nto & kutheni engandisebenzisi. Indincedile ukuba ndibone elona xabiso lezinto ebomini - akusoloko kuyimali. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba ubutyebi bokwenene onabo bubudlelwane nabanye abantu. Obo bobona buncwane benene. Ndandizimisele ukuncama yonke into ngenxa yemali. Ndandinakho konke ukuzazisa kunye nokuzixabisa ndiboshwe yimali.

    Ekuphela kwento yokuxhobisa ngomsebenzi wesondo kukungabi lihlwempu kwakhona. Bathi kunika amandla, ukuba bubufazi. Kodwa ndiyacinga ukuba yinkomo leyo.

    Ukuba ungumthengisi ngomzimba ofuna ukuthetha, nxibelelana noElise Apha