Kutheni Baninzi Abantu Abahlala Ekhaya Badandathekile

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Imali Abaphambukeli bayakrokra, abahlobo bethu bayabaxhasa, kwaye oomama abahlala ekhaya bahlala bekuvumela ukuba ungene kwiklabhu yabo.
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    Uninzi lonyaka, iqabane lam kunye nam sahlulelene ngokunyamekela intombi yethu eneminyaka emibini ubudala 50/50. Kodwa ubuncinci kube kanye enyakeni, xa ishedyuli yomsebenzi weqabane lam iye yafuna ngakumbi, ndingena njengentloko yomgcini wentombi yethu. Eli xesha silichitha kunye epakini, kwiipaseji zevenkile zeethoyi, kwigumbi lokulinda kugqirha wabantwana.

    Kule minyaka ingamashumi amabini idlulileyo, inani lootata abahlala emakhaya lenyukile — ukusuka kwisigidi nje esinye ngo-1989 ukuya kwezi-2 ngo-2012, IZiko loPhando lwePew . Sikwabona ngokubonakalayo eluntwini, ukusuka isiciko ye ENew Yorker kwi iimpundu zawo onke amahlaya kwiimuvi nakwiinkqubo zeTV ezinje Amakhwenkwe aBantwana okanye Utata uMkhathalelo .



    Unokucinga ukuba kukho intuthuzelo yokwazi ukuba asizizo zodwa ezingcolisa iintsana emadolweni kunye nokufunda iincwadi zabantwana imini yonke, kodwa hayi. Inyaniso yokuba ngutata ohlala ekhaya kukuba abantu ongabaziyo bayakrokra, abahlobo bethu bayabagada, kunye noomama-ekhaya-iqela elinye onokulindela ukuba ubenalo-bahlala bengaphumeleli kwaye bangakuvumeli ungene iklabhu.

    UBradley Egel, obesele engutata ekhaya kule minyaka ilishumi idlulileyo, undixelele xa wayeqala ukuthatha unyana wakhe epakini, waziva ecalucalulwa ngomnye umama.

    Kwakukho eli qela loomama ababebanda ngokungaqhelekanga kum. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuya kwinqanaba lokuba bemke nje [xa ndifika], utshilo. 'Emva konyaka, eli bhinqa-ndicinga ukuba lalifana nenyosi yokumkanikazi-lihamba lize lithi, & apos; Siye saqaphela ukuba uza kwipaki enye ngalo lonke ixesha. Yeyiphi into oyisebenzisayo? & Apos; Bendifana, & apos; I & apos; ndilapha nomntwana wam. Kuyafana njengawe. & Apos; '

    Ezo ntlobo zeempendulo ezingalunganga zithatha ityala. UJames Kline, ilungu lebhodi ye- Inethiwekhi yeSizwe yoTata waseKhaya , uxelele i-gswconsultinggroup.com ubandlululo ekuhlaleni kunye nokuzihlukanisa zezinye zezinto eziphambili ezibangela ukudakumba phakathi kwabazali abasisigxina.

    'Nangona kwenziwe inkqubela enkulu ekwamkelweni, uluvo lukatata ongenamandla lusaqiniswa ngamajelo eendaba kunye noluntu ngokubanzi, utshilo uKline, utata wabantwana abathathu waseRaleigh, North Carolina, owayefuna unyango loxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo emva ukuzalwa komntwana wakhe wesibini. Ngoku, njengenxalenye yeNational At-Home Dad Network, ubonelela ngenkxaso kwabanye ootata bokuhlala ekhaya kwizikhundla ezifanayo.

    Imiba yoxinzelelo inokuba mandundu, utshilo, kuba amadoda awahlali ecela uncedo. 'Sithanda ukuyifaka ngaphakathi kwaye sibe nesimo sengqondo se-DIY.'

    Kudala siqaphela ukuba uza kwipaki enye ngalo lonke ixesha. Yintoni isivumelwano sakho? '

    Ewe kunjalo, uninzi lwabazali abatsha banengxaki yokudakumba-nokuba ngaba ngoomama okanye ngootata, ukuhlala ekhaya okanye hayi. I-UK ukufunda epapashwe kwinyanga ephelileyo ibonise iipesenti ezi-3.6 zamadoda enexinzelelo kunyaka wokuqala wokuba ngutata kunye nomnye uphando babonisa omnye kwabathathu abazali abatsha babenexhala ngempilo yabo yengqondo.

    Kodwa ootata bokuhlala ekhaya abazizilwi nje kuba bezama ukuziqhelanisa neemfuno zobuzali; Siyavuma kwakhona ukuba asingabo abondli emizini yethu, kwaye lonto inokuba buhlungu. I & apos; d ndithanda ukucinga ukuba thina sikhanyiselwe ngakumbi kunokufuna ukubhatalwa ukuze sibonakalise ubudoda bethu, kodwa ukuxhomekeka kwezemali kunonxibelelwano nokudakumba emadodeni. IsiDanish sase2013 ukufunda , umzekelo, ifumanise ukuba amadoda axhomekeke ngokwezezimali kunokwenzeka ngakumbi ukuba afune unyango lwexhala, ukungalali, kunye nokungasebenzi kakuhle emzimbeni. Ingcaciso yabo? Imilinganiselo yentlalo yenza la madoda azive engonelanga.

    'Ndinabahlobo abandingcungcuthekisayo malunga nokuxhomekeka emalini,' utshilo uMark Suguitan, utata wabantwana abasisigxina we-LA, onomfazi osebenza njengogqirha wamazinyo wasemanzini. Baza kubuza, & apos; Zeziphi & apos izibonelelo zakho? & Apos; Ke ndithi kubo, & apos; Ewe, nicinga ukuba zingakanani iindleko zokhathalelo lomntwana? Kungenxa yokuba le yeyona nto ndiyibizayo. & Apos; '

    Enye ukufunda Ukusuka kwiYunivesithi yaseCornell bafumanise ukuba amadoda afumana umvuzo omncinci kunoba atshatile kunokwenzeka ukuba angathembeki, abathi ababhali abafundayo babona njengendlela yokulwa isoyikiso kubudoda babo obubangelwa kukusilela kwemali. (Olu phononongo lujolise emadodeni kubudlelwane bobufanasini; amandla anokwahluka kumadoda axhomekeke ngokwezemali kunye nootata abahlala ekhaya abakwisini esifanayo.)

    'Akukho mntu ufuna ukucela imvume yokuthenga into, kodwa oko kunokuba yinyani ngakumbi endodeni, ngakumbi ukuba le ndoda ichithe ixesha lokufumana imali yayo,' utshilo uPeggy Drexler, uprofesa wezengqondo e-Weill Cornell Medical College. gswconsultinggroup.com. Oko kuya kubafazi, nako-njengokuba uDrexler esitsho, 'bambalwa abantu abathanda ukuziva bexhomekekile, nasemtshatweni'- kodwa isimilo esichasene nokuxhomekeka kwemali sikhulu kakhulu emadodeni.

    Ngokuka-Drexler, indlela amadoda aphendula ngayo kwesi sisongelo ebudodeni ixhomekeke kwindlela esi sibini esenze ngayo isigqibo sokuba makahlale ekhaya, 'nokuba ngaba lukhetho okanye yinto engenakuphepheka.' Indoda eya kuba ngutata ekhaya ngenxa yokuphulukana nomsebenzi, umzekelo, inokuthi isabele ngokungalunganga kunendoda eyashiye ngabom umsebenzi ukuze igxile kubuzali.

    Kwaye ayingabo bonke ootata abangaphangeliyo. U-Ian Kerner, ugqirha wezengqondo wase-New York kunye noochwephesha kwezesondo, undixelele uninzi lootata abahlala ekhaya ababona kwizonyango zonyango banemisebenzi yokuzimela okanye umsebenzi ongafuni ukuba bangene eofisini. Xa kuthelekiswa nootata abasebenza e-ofisini, uKerner uthe ootata abasebenza ekhaya 'bahlala betyale imali ekwenzeni ubudlelwane busebenze, ngokuyinxenye kuba banokulahlekelwa kakhulu yimali ukuba ayiphumeleli.' Ngamanye amagama, zininzi ii-apos emgceni-ezinokukhuthaza okanye ukudakumba.

    U-Egel, owayehlukunyezwa epakini ngoomama abahlala ekhaya, wandixelela ukuba uyathanda ukuba ngutata ngokusisigxina. Kodwa uyazi ukuba yindleko kangakanani kuye, zombini kumsebenzi wakhe nakubomi bakhe bobuqu.

    'Ndincamile iminyaka elishumi apho ndingakhange ndikwazi ukwenza izinto ezininzi, utshilo. Kodwa oku kubaluleke ngakumbi. Andikhathali nokuba ngaba abona bahle bajonge abantwana okanye abona bantwana bakrelekrele. Ndifuna nje ukuba babe ngabantu abahloniphekileyo abaphatha abantu ngokufanelekileyo. Yiyo yonke loo nto ibalulekileyo kum. Lowo ngumsebenzi wam. '

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